Diary of a Singaporean Cabby
With a family to support, becoming jobless at late fifties is a nightmare in Singapore. Unable to find a suitable job, I became a taxi driver. My real life stories may seem trivial and my views may lack substances of a learned professor, but I shall write without inhibition and embellishments. In also sharing my thoughts, love for music and food, I hope my blog will be more pleasurable. More importantly, I blog to make a dull job a bit more interesting.
Friday, 27 December 2024
Regrets...
Tuesday, 24 December 2024
A Single Lady's Fear.
I heard that before entering into a relationship,
a single lady trembles with fear.
She looks back at the care-free time she had,
leaving a messy bed undone,
dirty clothes strewn all over her room,
and no one cares.
But now, in front of her,
she sees a new life so different.
That to enter,
it seems leaving the carefree single life behind.
Hesitant, she struggles with thoughts of going back,
somehow her heart says “no way”.
She has to take the risk
of entering into a new life of possibilities,
like a river entering an ocean and embracing it.
Because only then will the fear disappear
and a vast ocean of joy and happiness beacons,
with a family of her own.
Saturday, 21 December 2024
Glaucoma - a silent eye defect.
About ten years ago, I noticed my vision was blurry. Initially, I thought it was due to my existing short-sightedness. I tried increasing the power of my spectacle lenses, but my vision didn’t improve. It turned out that my right eye was affected by glaucoma — a progressive, incurable condition caused by high eye pressure that gradually damages the optic nerves.
Friday, 24 May 2024
What does it feel like to be old?
Yesterday, a young boy from my block surprised me with a
question: “Uncle, what does it feel like to be old?”
I was taken aback since I don’t consider myself old, even though
I’m nearing 80. I’m strong and healthy. I gave him a cheeky smile, which left
him looking surprised and a bit embarrassed.
Placing my arms around his shoulder, we walked toward the bus
stop as I slowly explained that it was an interesting question and gave my
feeling on his question.
After we parted and upon reflection, I realized that getting old
is a rare gift.
Often, when I look in the mirror, I’m surprised at the person
staring back at me. Two bulging eye bags, a wrinkled forehead, flabby chin, and
a few black spots here and there, I think I look younger than my age. I stopped
worrying about those things a long time ago. I wouldn’t trade anything I have
for fewer wrinkles, less grey hair, or a flat stomach.
I don’t berate myself for brushing my full dentures instead of
natural teeth, nor for not making the bed. I don’t feel guilty for occasionally
indulging in fatty stewed pork legs or fresh cockles in sambal belacan. I enjoy
my social beer sessions with a few close friends and vaping.
At my age, I’m not too concerned about unhealthy foods and
habits. It’s too late to worry, nor can I reverse them. Don’t worry. Be happy
I’ve earned the right to be a little carefree, messy,
extravagant, and to spend hours tending to my corridor garden and staring at my
plants and flowers. It saddens me greatly to see dear friends leave this world
before they’ve enjoyed the freedom that comes with growing old.
Who cares if I choose to read or play on the computer until 4 am
in the morning and then sleep until who knows what time?
I sing to the rhythm of the '50s and '60s with YouTube or
indulge in nostalgia by staring for hours at my old photo albums, especially
reminiscing about my puppy love and imagining what family life would have been
like with her. I congratulate myself for the happy family I have now.
I walk slowly through the nature park in a singlet that
stretches over my plump body, despite the pitying looks from the fast joggers.
They’ll get old too, if they’re lucky.
I am grateful to have lived long enough for my hair to turn a
bit grey with a blading top, my right eye blinded with glaucoma, and my
knee joints to be in intermittent pain.
I no longer crave for fame or wealth but is satisfied to have my
regular porridge with century eggs and salted vegetable for lunch and $4.00
economic rice for dinner. More importantly, I have no major sickness but if it
comes, so be it.
Now, to answer the question honestly on how I feel to be old: I
can say:
I like being old because old age makes me think and worry less.
I know I’m not going to live forever, but while I’m here, I’m going to live by
my own rules, those of my heart.
I’m not going to regret what wasn’t, nor worry about what will
be. The time that remains, I will simply love life as I have until today,
leaving the rest to God.
I wish you a long and healthy life. Cheers!!
Sunday, 12 May 2024
Brisk Walking in Zheng Hua Nature Park- Bukit Panjang
Saturday, 23 December 2023
A thought at Christmas 2023
I was born into a Taoist Chinese family where reverence for "Tau Peh Kong" (大伯公), an ancient Chinese deity, was the norm. Christianity was strictly forbidden in our household, creating an aura of intrigue around this faith, but I was absolutely uninterested.
As a child, Christmas seemed distant, a celebration confined to affluent, English-educated families. I often found myself envious of their festive joys. with plenty of presents.
One vivid memory stands out: at 12 years old, I accompanied a Methodist friend to his Christmas celebration at St. James Methodist Church in Bukit Panjang. The allure of gifts and merriment captured my imagination. However, upon returning home with my treasures, my joy turned to terror as my mother discovered my "transgression" and unleashed a punishing wrath, forcing me to relinquish my presents.
In that moment, at an impressionable age, I was tempted to screately embraces Christianity, an act met with severe consequences, like disowned by my parents
Over time, as I matured and observed through reading the world's unfolding events, I began questioning the Christian teachings I had occasionally received.
My skepticism grew towards religion, a construct crafted by fallible human hands, appearing increasingly nonsensical to me. Take, for instance, the Christian belief in God's mercy through the sacrifice of Jesus Christ for mankind's salvation. The promise of answered prayers for the faithful is a cornerstone of this faith.
However, when I turn my gaze to the suffering of innocent children in places like Gaza, the discrepancies become starkly apparent. The anguish, fear, and loss experienced by these children, living in perpetual turmoil, haunted by the brutality of conflict, stands in direct contradiction to the narrative of a benevolent and responsive deity.
The plight of the Palestinian children, casualties of longstanding conflict, challenges the very notion of a compassionate God. The prolonged suffering, with no respite in sight, begs the question: where is this God in their most dire moments?
Some may offer explanations, citing the mysterious ways of God or His timing beyond human comprehension. But for me, the ongoing anguish for generations underlines the apparent absence of any divine intervention.
The festivity of Christmas loses its significance when juxtaposed with the brutal reality faced by innocent children, their lives snatched away while an unseen God remains silent.
How many more innocent lives must be sacrificed before a purportedly loving God is compelled to act?
God, where are you?
Amidst the holiday cheer, it's crucial to reflect on the anguish endured by the people of Gaza. Their suffering demands acknowledgment and action beyond festivity and merrymaking.
Tuesday, 28 March 2023
A free round trip ticket to Hong Kong
In March 2023, I participated in Cathay Pacific’s World of Winners campaign and was lucky to win a round-trip ticket from Singapore to Hong Kong. However, my journey in this campaign was not without its challenges and I learned some valuable lessons along the way
Briefly, my winning episode was filled with a rollercoaster of emotions, the revelation of my shortcoming, and great help from some wonderful people from Cathay Pacific Singapore.
I signed up for the campaign online hours before the start time and clutched a good queue number of 10,150 out of the 12,500 allocated.
When the winners were announced on March 20, I was ecstatic when I saw my name and email in the winner list.
After two days of waiting. I was downcasted as I did not receive any email from the airline informing me to collect my winning ticket but I reassured myself to be patient and continued waiting.
Deep down in my heart, I knew I was not into a scam.
Despite checking my inbox and spam folder daily, I didn’t receive any news from the airline for five days after March 20.
When my attempt to email Cathay Pacific H.K. failed, I decided to call Cathay Pacific Singapore on 26/3/2023, a Sunday morning when most Singaporean were still in bed.
Surprisingly, a sweet lady who sounds like a Filipino (forgot her name) took my call, and attended to my concerns attentively.
During the conversation with her, she brought to my attention that I had written my e-mail incorrectly at the time of registration for the campaign.
Instead of including an "l" in "@gmail.com, I had mistakenly written "@gmai.com (omitting "l").
Unfortunately, due to my condition of glaucoma which has led to the blindness of my right eye, I failed to detect the mistake when I first glanced at the winner's list.
Although my eye condition provides a good excuse for my oversight, I must take full responsibility for my carelessness. Ultimately, it was my own laziness that cause this mistake.
Luckily, the sweet lady assured me that she would amend my incorrect email address instantly.
I was quite happy knowing my grave carelessness and mistake would be corrected.
But the feeling of redemption and short-lived euphoria didn't totally satisfy my gut feeling.
I want to be absolutely certain that my email address is amended and I'll get my free ticket eventually.
A short later, I entered Cathay Pacific Singapore's website Chat Box in WhatsApp to follow up on my earlier conversation with the sweet lady.
A living Ms. Mina (not a virtual assistant) came online to chat and wrote:
"Hi, Sir James Lim. Thank you for choosing Cathay Pacific. My name is Mina. I am seeing here that you are in need of assistance with an email to your ticket. I am more than happy to assist with it"
In a short span of about 10 minutes of pleasant chatting with her, she finally said:
"I have sent the email to our relevant team in HK, Sir James. Please wait for their response within 24 - 48 hours. However, I cannot guarantee that they will approve of this one but one thing is for sure, I have raised your concerns with them"
Frankly, in my many years of interacting with local sales staff, I have never experienced such a courteous, helpful, and professional salesperson like Ms. Mina".
Now, true to her assurance and assistance, I received an email in less than 48 hours from accommodating Cathay Pacific H.K. confirming that I had officially won the free ticket and inviting me to redeem it by April 19.
Sadly, some winners lamented that their joy of winning the free ticket was short-lived after finding out they still have to pay close to $200 in taxes because the airline only covers the fare, and worst of all, these people commented that it may be more worthwhile to fly with another airline.
The fact is all participants in this campaign were informed in advance that they have to bear all taxes and surcharges on their own.
I wonder why there are such ungrateful and cheap-skate people who demand a foot when given an inch.
A normal return economy ticket on Cathay Pacific to H.K. for travel in April 2023 costs about S$650.00. Therefore, there is still a “saving” of S$450 after tax and surcharges. Why still unhappy?
I’ll redeem my prize soon and plan to take the bullet train from H.K. to Shanghai and Guangzhou. The only thing that concerns me is traveling alone in a foreign country, particularly at my ripe age.
From this episode, I learned I’m rather careless in my typing and had to double-check whatever I write in the future. Additionally, I learned to never surrender when faced with negative responses and take things for granted.
More importantly, I learned there are still many kind-hearted and helpful people like Ms. Mina around us.
P/S. I'm happy to share my prices with friends who are willing to be my travel companion to H.K. and China.
Saturday, 25 March 2023
A Short Trip to Raub, Pahang (Malaysia)
Saturday, 23 July 2022
A Happy Day in my Life.
As parents, nothing makes us prouder than seeing our filial children
achieve remarkable things in their life, such as obtaining post-graduate
qualifications as working adults.
Today is Aaron Lim's convocation day at N.T.U.
On this day, I told Aaron:
"Congratulations, my dearest Son on receiving a Master's
of Science degree (MSc) from Nanyang Technological University (N.T.U), in
Asset and Wealth Management, which happens to be an essential component
of your present job description.
Your achievements have pleasantly surprised and pleased your
mother and me.
Honestly, to be able to quietly accomplish your academic
goals despite your laid-back personality, raising a young family, and working a
stressful day job are admirable feats beyond words and our wildest expectations.
Well done, man!
In addition, I appreciate your discreet method of study and
unassuming character.
Not many people know you were in pursuit of a post-graduate master’s
degree until now.
They say "actions and results speak louder than words!".
Indeed, I believe you’ll be an inspirational father to your
children.
Today, I formally apologize for my past doubts about your abilities
and resourcefulness.
Previously, I felt you lacked seriousness and motivation because
you have always enjoyed fooling around since you were a child.
In my eyes, you were a mischievous, cheeky, handsome boy with
no interest in studies or high aspirations.
Today, you proved me wrong,
You are now a successful and responsible family man with a
set of right priorities that urge well for a bright future. (Don’t screw up)
Therefore, I obliterate my former erroneous assumptions about
you.
More importantly, I’m not impious and thanks God for keeping
me alive today, at the age of 75, so that I can participate in and enjoy the priceless
and proudest moments of my life on your convocation day.
I couldn’t wish for more but with your capricious traits, we
might have another pleasant surprise. Only God knows.
Again, Congratulations, my handsome son on your graduation.
I wish you and your lovely family the best of luck in the
future!
Best wishes!
Monday, 30 May 2022
Cigarette Smoking vs Vaping.
I have been smoking a pack of 20 cigarettes a day for the past 50 years and at the present price of cigarettes, I spent about $350 a month, all because of an addictive habit.
When I took up this lethal smoking habit as a teenager in the late sixties, my parents, male siblings, and aunties were all smokers too. My dad died of lung cancer at 60 and my mother died of heart disease at 80 due mainly to smoking. Most of my siblings are still smokers.
I know I'll die a premature death of lung cancer or heart disease if I continue my deadly habit.
Stopping smoking is a doddle thing but it's easier said than done.
Most health experts would say that all it requires is the decision that you really want to quit.
Yes, I agree wholeheartedly.
So, I must stop smoking immediately, you would say.
Honestly, I tried to snub it out thrice in the last 50 years, and each time it lasted for 3 years...a long period by any measure. But somehow, for various unexplainable reasons and solely myself to blame, I smoke again till today. sighs.
In reality, I don't have the luxury of many more three years to try quitting smoking.
In the early days of the seventies, help to quit smoking were few but today helps are readily available in many means and from various agencies.
Ultimately to snub it out for good or not, boils down to me making a choice.
Having been told that quitting will be awful, many smokers are inclined to give up.....the "giving-up".
I did try and failed three times as I said earlier.
I believe nothing is better than to stop smoking instantly but from the experience of my past, I want to take a small step first.
Perhaps, I should try vaping.
I learned that The Royal College of Physicians of the UK says E-cigarettes are likely to bring benefits to public health and should be widely promoted to smokers to help them quit tobacco,
In a report likely to further fuel a debate over electronic cigarettes, the influential British doctor's group stressed that tobacco smoking is both addictive and lethal, and concluded that e-cigarettes are "much safer than smoking".
E-cigarettes are not a gateway to smoking, the RCP said,
and do not lead to the normalization of the habit - two issues often cited
by critics who fear the devices can lure children and young people into smoking
habits.
"None of these products has to date attracted
significant use among adult never-smokers, or demonstrated evidence of
significant gateway progression into smoking among young people," the
RCP's 200-page report said.
E-cigarettes, which heat nicotine-laced liquid into vapor,
have rapidly grown into a global market for "vaping" products that
were estimated at around US$7 billion in 2015.
Tobacco smoking kills half of all smokers, plus at least another 600,000 people a year as non-smokers via second-hand smoke.
According to the World Health Organization (WHO), this makes it the world's biggest preventable killer, with a predicted death toll of a billion by the end of the century.
Many public health experts think e-cigarettes, or vapes, which do not contain tobacco, are a lower-risk alternative to smoking, but some questions remain about their long-term safety.
Unlike tobacco, nicotine does not cause cancer, or heart
and lung diseases.
Electronic cigarette vapor does not contain smoke, which is why vaping is much less harmful.
The ideal situation is for people not to smoke, to begin with, but when someone is hooked on smoking, smokers should be encouraged to use
nicotine "delivered in a cleaner form than in deadly cigarettes".
This is what tobacco harm reduction is - it reduces
the harm from tobacco while recognizing that some people will still use
nicotine in other safer forms."
I believe switching to vaping is a positive and sensible life choice for me.
Sadly, this Government banned vaping in Singapore.
You can read the reasons written by a Senior Parliamentary Secretary of various government ministries here (click)
Now, do you trust this ex-MP who lost his seat recently in Sengkang GRC and is an ordinary businessman and lawyer or a world-renowned medical establishment and specialist doctor?
I rather bet on the latter.
The final decision to unfriend my 20 daily cigarettes felt like the flicking of a switch.
Instead of reminding myself continually about the breaks, I was missing----I simply shut down all thoughts of them and when the craving for nicotine comes, I vape a puff or two.
But the challenges are by no means insurmountable and those cessation aid (e-liquefier) are not what you really need.
Sadly, nicotine-laced liquids in e-cigarettes are not currently regulated in a number of countries.
It is for these reasons among others that many healthcare providers do not recommend e-cigarettes as a safe alternative, although many researchers believe that e-cigarettes are likely to be better than combustible cigarettes.
The difference between smoking and vaping is that smoking delivers nicotine by burning tobacco which can cause smoking-related diseases while vaping delivers nicotine by heating liquid in a much less harmful way.
Now, vaping is not harmless but it is much less harmful than smoking. This is NOT a misconception as advocated by this "G", period.
In its most comprehensive review yet of vaping harms published in April this year, The Australian National University for Epidemiology and Population Health found that there was conclusive evidence that e-cigarettes caused poisoning, injuries, burns, and immediate toxicity through inhalation, including seizures but No mention at all about deadly cancer and heart diseases.
Needless to say, the healthiest option is NOT to vape or smoke.
Don't vape if you don't smoke. Only vape to quit smoking.
I have not smoked a stick of cigarettes for the past 12 days since I tried vaping.
I'll let the debate and controversy between cigarette smoking and vaping continue endlessly.
Meanwhile, I hope to end my relationship with vaping too in a month or so and become a non-smoker.
Wish me luck!!